Today I’m sharing with you how to ‘Unstick’ yourself and move forward, not by just understanding principles of Feng Shui, but by understanding as well, how where we live connects to our fears and blocks us from creating positive change.
Understanding our fears
To understand how where we live connects to our fears, we must first understand where fear comes from: our brain.
95 percent of our brain activity takes place at the unconscious or subconscious level. From the time of conception to the young age of six or seven, we are creating what are called “neural pathways.” These pathways are like highways for the thoughts and feelings we have, and they travel through our brain without us noticing. If you experienced a great deal of anxiety as a child, the subconscious connections your brain makes now are heavily influenced by these early emotions of fear.
Feng Shui tells us that we are connected to seven generations of our ancestors, not just through DNA that is handed to us, but through unconscious patterns and pathways too. Transgenerational trauma is what causes the great-great-grandchildren of ancestors who lived in war, to feel what seems like unexplainable anxiety or fear. Just as we can inherit a family member’s blue eyes or dimpled smile, we can inherit their unconscious fears, traumas and beliefs of scarcity and lack.
Now, all thoughts have vibrations, whether conscious or unconscious. So, where there is someone struggling with patterns or scarcity, lack and fear, the space around them reflects this. The law of attraction states that “like attracts like.” This means that people with a low frequency — people who are insecure and self-abandoning — attract each other, while people with a high frequency — people who love and value themselves — also attract each other. This makes turning fear and anxiety into something positive difficult, as our subconscious beliefs are usually what’s choosing to live and create spaces that reflect these fears. We choose what is familiar, How can you choose peace if you haven’t experienced it and don’t even know what that really is?
That’s why I love Feng Shui! When you know what good energy looks like, when you have a formula that has been tested over centuries, you can use that a tool to guide you to change the energy around you.
Lessons of inner work
If you follow me, you know that I’ve moved now 15 times in 25 years. It’s part of my destiny to be on the move. My astrological chart has two very active travel stars, plus other indications that show a life of change and movement.
However, at some point in my personal growth and Feng Shui journey, I asked myself, Why is this happening? Why did I choose this chart and these patterns? What is the lesson? I also noticed that as I studied the homes I lived in, that they would have similar energy, facing the same compass degree and hexagrams. Yes, each house was an improvement energetically, but they all pointed to the same direction, the same thing. While each home had different layout and floorplan and a different physical environment, they all held a similar frequency by the direction they faced. I realized there were things I needed to face in my life and change before I could move on.
It dawned on me that these homes were somehow connected to me thorough a lesson or better word opportunity, and until I embodied the opportunity of that space to grow, I would be unable to move to a new home or in a new direction. I realized that I was part of what had to change too, not just the house. Everything is connected.
When you see the world as a field of energy with shared connections and vibrations, you begin to see messages everywhere. When you see these messages as teachers or lessons that are happening for us not to us, they become opportunities.
By understanding that these four homes were an opportunity to see and learn, I could look for the changes I needed to make personally as well as with the Feng Shui to move forward in a conscious, positive, supportive direction.
It’s important to remember that all change is uncomfortable. We tend to choose what is familiar. By understanding and working with the information, formulas and directions of Feng Shui, we can trust the process of change and move past any temporary feelings of discomfort or distress. Through this process, we can really unlock the full potential of Feng Shui.
If you are struggling to find out what kind of home to look for I suggest taking my Feng Shui For Life Online Course or to book a private consultation with me so we can clear define this for you.
There is always something we can do, no matter what direction your home faces. To help you today, and supplement your self-change and inner work journey, let’s focus on one of the most basic, yet deeply important, aspects of practical Feng Shui in your home: the front door.
Your front door is your antenna to the universe that says pick me. Think of it as a satellite dish that is attracting a frequency. The front door is gateway for the energy that flows into your home from the natural world. Depending on the view from your front door, whether it’s a bustling city or quiet lakefront, your home’s energy can be drastically affected.
Just as you need to consider the energy you are inviting into your home through the front door, you need to consider the energy you are letting out. Does your home’s entrance exude good fortune and inspiration? Warmth and love? If you are trying to manifest financial or business success, or promote a healthy, lovely relationship, then you need to reflect these goals right from the start, in the entrance of your home.
The entrance of your home needs a clear, unobstructed, well-lit pathway, just as your goals do. The prominence, recognizability, and openness of the outside entrance of your home correlates directly to the good fortune, empowerment, and success of the home’s inhabitants. This outside space provides room for positive energy to collect, instead of getting lost as it tries to enter your home.
As all of the energy that has collected outside comes inside, it will begin to flow throughout your home, but it needs to know where to go. If it is obstructed by too much clutter, furniture that is difficult to maneuver around, or a confusing layout, then the energy will become stuck. The inside entrance, as well as the main hall or space that leads to the other rooms of your home, should feel pleasant, open, and very airy.
Remember that everything is energy, and everything is connected. More importantly, remember that together, we are more. When we better ourselves, and learn to support ourselves, we encourage a world where others will want to better themselves too. Be the change you want to see, and together we will be more.
Love, light and blessings,